An Unequal Music
I read ‘When I Hit You’ by Meena Kandasamy and it brought me back to an episode in my relationship with music.
Marriage
The Marriage Certificate LOC
Marriage becomes a political boundary between people, turning them from friends into people needing security checks & visas.
There’s No Sane Way To Grieve
Breakups need to be grieved. Grieving is messy and the path to healing isn’t straight. But if you have the space & support, it happens.
The Curious Case Of The Newly Divorced Man
He is rebuilding his beliefs and his life. He’s also learning how to be an independent adult, possibly for the first time. And finally, he’s having to re-learn how to be around women.
Girls Who May One Day Be Gone
Gone Girl – I saw the movie, I read the book. This is not a review but a prediction of doom.
The New Indians: 30-Something Ex-Somethings
There is a new breed of people out there and they are a helluva lot better to be around than the others. They are the 30-something war veterans of relationships. They are divorcees. They’ve lived in without marriage and borne the backlash from family, landlords, friends and service people. They’ve…
The ‘Warning Signs’ Of My Generation
Last month I had a conversation with a friend I was meeting after a long time. My failed engagement came up. It would, of course, it’s one of the biggest things to happen to me in the past ten years. The good thing is it’s not THE biggest thing, only…
I’m Looking For Our Normal, Mr. Everyday
I was Youtube surfing when an 80s playlist came up with an Amrita Singh song. It made me want to read, listen, watch and know more about her relationship with Saif Ali Khan. And why not? I am an older woman who was in a committed (and what I thought…
Speaking Of Why I Don’t Marry
A beloved uncle shared this TOI Blog by Vinita Dawra Nangia with me. (‘Whom Should I Marry?’). This was my response: Dear uncle, I liked where the article seemed to be going (this is how the decision/marriage model has worked so far, here’s why those references are not valid anymore)…
City | Fiction | Relationships
#IdeaStory: Sea of Words
I’m drowning in a sea of words, she saysYou don’t want to be rescued, he observesSo she asks if they can write a story together.