Why People Cheat
The thrill of it. The validation. Why do people cheat?
Marriage
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The Jealousy Object – And How To Deal With Being It
I do not fight territory battles over people because people are not property. The Jealousy Game, I won’t play. How do I deal with others who want to drag me in?
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Polyamory: In The Name Of Love (For Many)
Millennial Free Love Or Old Cheating With A New Name? I’ve written about polyamory before. I’ve known polyamorous people. I’ve been out with some. I have felt a deep connection, even great affection for a polyamorous person. But I’ve also known a lot of men who use polyamory as license…
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An Unequal Music
I read ‘When I Hit You’ by Meena Kandasamy and it brought me back to an episode in my relationship with music.
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The Marriage Certificate LOC
Marriage becomes a political boundary between people, turning them from friends into people needing security checks & visas.
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There’s No Sane Way To Grieve
Breakups need to be grieved. Grieving is messy and the path to healing isn’t straight. But if you have the space & support, it happens.
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The Curious Case Of The Newly Divorced Man
He is rebuilding his beliefs and his life. He’s also learning how to be an independent adult, possibly for the first time. And finally, he’s having to re-learn how to be around women.
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Girls Who May One Day Be Gone
Gone Girl – I saw the movie, I read the book. This is not a review but a prediction of doom.
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The New Indians: 30-Something Ex-Somethings
There is a new breed of people out there and they are a helluva lot better to be around than the others. They are the 30-something war veterans of relationships. They are divorcees. They’ve lived in without marriage and borne the backlash from family, landlords, friends and service people. They’ve…
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The ‘Warning Signs’ Of My Generation
Last month I had a conversation with a friend I was meeting after a long time. My failed engagement came up. It would, of course, it’s one of the biggest things to happen to me in the past ten years. The good thing is it’s not THE biggest thing, only…
