Always Make Room For The Flowers
This picture was shot by a sweet young photographer at an Open Mic event in 2012 when she spotted the flowers I was carrying.
Gender
The Lowest Priority Box
Last week, I drew a line and said, “I’m done. No more. Goodbye.” I have lived through the dreadfulness of limbo, the sheer callousness of men who will not spend a minute reflecting on their feelings. And you know what? It is just not that important any more. 2017 wrecked…
Why Men Need To Get Quiet
Yes, that’s what I said. Yes, all men. Yes, as an entire gender.
Breaking Up With The RomCom
I have been a fan of the romcom since it became possible for me to choose what to watch. Now, I find myself wincing during rewatches.
Make That One Water: Saying No To Alcohol
This December I passed a milestone in my life and quit alcohol altogether. I am part of a culture that has mixed messages about alcohol & gender.
I Think I’ve Outgrown Men
I met someone. And in the space of a week, went through relief, connection, amusement, amazement, entertainment, surprise, confusion, irritation and goodbye.
I Could Love But Wait, Who Am I?
The month of love is almost at end and I’ve managed to not even look at this blog. That characterises how I’ve been. I have been very busy doing things I’m generally known for (writing, performing, organising, scheduling, worrying) and spending nothing at all on things that I am. I never…
If I Were To Speak At Mark Salling’s Funeral
Glee actor Mark Salling was found dead a few hours earlier. There have been a slew of ‘He deserved it’ messages online.
Aziz Ansari And The Missed Cues
Another man joins the ranks of predators and this time it’s a brown, woke man called Aziz Ansari.
Rape Culture, One Accidental Anal Joke At A Time
A viral tweet made me think about how ‘accidental anal’ is rape. And it brought the manosphere out in force.