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  1. “However, I must also say that I have always had great regard for women who take their family’s desires into consideration while choosing a life partner. This isn’t quite the same as the Mama’s boy syndrome where some men unquestioningly gulp down whatever is shoved down their proverbial throats. ”

    honestly I dont see the difference between men and women w.r.t this. I am sure in many male cases as well, its the family concerns which come into the picture.

    In most parts of India, both urban and rural, marriages does not involve just the groom and the bride, there is a whole lot of other people who are involved, and continue to stay involved. I do not see why a male or a female should not think about practicality of married life. If a person values his family, or wants to be involved with parents of either sides through their old ages, shouldn’t he or she make sure, he/she doesnt make the task difficult for themselves?.

    I do agree that all this should be thought of well before he or she gets into a relationship.
    But sometimes attraction is such a baffling thing, one cannot really keep tabs on their mind.

    1. @Rambler: Well, true enough. But to act on that attraction or not, that’s something that is and well should be within a person’s control. Having acted on it, taking responsibility for it and not backing out because the family is suddenly remembered…that’s something I’d like to see more of.

  2. There is a huge factor called genenation gap which plays a significant role here.I believe that now a days most of the girls and boys are smart enough to choose the right partner.Few years back it was not the case. So parents-who belong to old school of thinking-definitely need to at least listen to what their kids have to say about their choice.Unfortunately they do not in most of the cases.Its not that they do not want to but they are bound by their policies.they cannot be blamed for sure.
    So what i feel is that this tug of war wil continue only for around 10 to 15 years. When the current youth and their children come into scene this intolerance will no longer be there. Our society would have undergone a sea of changes by then.

    1. @Divya: The generation gap is nearly as old as humanity itself. By that time, our generation will probably the older one and at the other end of this gap. Woe is us!

  3. I think the situation also depends on whether its a love marriage or an arranged scenario and it’s definitley not an easy choice to make for any girl.

  4. It takes two to weather the storm of discontent. And yes, tenacity is the objective virtue to highlight.

    But the reality underneath the covers is that these two courageous women had two equally persistent men who backed them and remained faithful.

    In a poetic sense, enduring all this storming lent a sense of authenticity to their relationships – and that makes the future all the more brighter for them.

    1. @Zubin Wadia: That’s totally true. I was thinking about it from the womens’ perspective but there’s no denying the backing of equally strong men.

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