You can’t help other people being who they are, despite all promises, despite all dramatic declarations.
You can’t help being yourself, despite all good resolutions, despite all bad experiences.
The thing to remember is that it is wrong to make a person become who he or she is not. But it is far worse to become someone you are not, as a result of other people being who they are. Especially when being that way only hurts you.
You stand for yourself, always and alone. No one else ever will. And remember,
This above all, to thine own self be true.
Even that’s comparatively easy. It’s understanding who you really are that is the challenge.