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  1. The problem, I feel, with this memetic fetish of the manic pixie girl lies not with the girl, but the guy, who seems to think he can somehow be the solution to every spoken and undiscovered problem in the girl’s life. How gratifying it would be for them, to point to their lover and say, “look, I have cured her! She is my creation and owes all to me!” Hardly healthy.

  2. WOW, JUST FOUND YOU!! I have blogged six years and don’t seem to get “it.” Congrats on being Freshly Pressed, your writing shows. I hope to see you stop by as I am an avid blogger and reader of books…

  3. Actually, and firstly, I am very confused that you said that a MPDG is only a supporting character in stories. I always thought of them as the star of the story whose male main character was an antihero. And if we’re not talking about supporting roles, a starring role I can think of off the top of my head is Shopaholic This may be because I, in many ways, relate to the MPDG–in my self-centered ways, of course (haha). BUT! What I envision a Manic Pixie Dream Girl to be is the stereotype of an INFP personality type, which is hard to fake and impossible to keep up as a persona -ie, a character used solely to attract the opposite sex. If INFP and MPDG are one in the same, why all the judgements? I guess it’s because the assumption is that they are not, and that MPDG is simply a role that some women adopt to create intrigue in others (as a tool of seduction). Or perhaps, as some comments have implied, just an immature phase a woman may go through.

    I’m either not fully understanding how this “character” is perceived and why it’s perceived so negatively (from what you’re saying in your blog), or I simply don’t agree with the verdict. I’ll read the rest of the blogs you linked to educate myself and let you know!

  4. Never had heard of this name for the archetype before (I always referred to these characters as the quirky girl… but it all makes so much sense!) Taking a look through the various tropes I find that I’ve embodied a few in my life, including the MPDG… but also more the broken bird and the stoic

  5. I am confused but I do think I’m somewhat like this too but I don’t know if I’ve got the answers or even is on the right track. I’ve only just started WordPress here today and I want to learn many things.
    I need a lot of time to think heh. Thank you.

  6. I always hated the MPDG trope. I guess because I’m the guy who’d need one (An overy-serious guy drowning in his music and books), but these stories are so out of touch with reality. All these brooding young men only get these girls if they’re extremely hot. That personality of ‘i’m really sad and think a lot about life’ is as attractive as an old shovel.

  7. My daughter who is 27 seems to be strongly relate to mpdg and I think I was like that at her age as well. As I have traveled to the over 50 crowd I can’t even remember why I would want to be that way. I guess it was the same reason birds spread their wings and strut. I’m in the dating world again after 30 years of marriage and have vowed to be myself-whatever that may be. It works for me.

  8. It’s been my dream to be one that I actually altered who I really was to be. Now with this post that called it out, I want to be more than a type of character who is merely a sidekick and is a bit stuck in her problems. Thanks for this post. :-))))

  9. OMG. This is an actual thing. I thought it was just me. I’m Nigerian; growing up I was that girl who was always buried in a book. I’ve always known my personality was a mash-up of all my favourite heroines and only recently I reflected and asked myself who I would be if I hadn’t read so much, if I had read different books. I don’t think I’m ready for the answer now. But look, my favourite characters: Jo March, Darrell Rivers, Scout Finch. And this is who I am now: tomboyish, pixie-like, often sarcastic, hot-tempered. I need new heroines. 😒

  10. I very much appreciate this peice. I have always liked to think of it as an invisible control. Although from the outside it looks as though the men are the heroes, I think that the female supporting roles have an invisible and superceding control, we just don’t need the recognition for it as men do. I think we create the outcome by silently puppeting the men in our lives. Thank you so much for this peice, it truly did make me take an outside look at my own personality!

    1. @Feorrest Brakeman: Well, we’re still being who we are. Maybe now onwards, don’t box us into quirk-lined boxes that fit fiction tropes?

  11. I think in some ways, we all go through a period of mirroring one character type or another. It is our journey to maturity and self-discovery (and self-love) that gives us the strength to leave the mirrored lifestyle behind. So many people wander through life without ever taking the time to look inward and recognize that they aren’t being fully true to themselves. You are way ahead of the masses, the sheep falling in line with media’s portrayal of life. Cheers to the journey!

  12. The MPDG concept is new to me by name, this is the first I’m hearing of this personality with a title.

    I liked this article because it introduced the idea of the MPDG and I saw myself in her, then when you transitioned into this character only being a sidekick to a man, it makes me want to write my own story and be a stronger, more independent person.

    1. @thirstyforlemonade: I’m very glad to hear that! Being a writer, I’ve been intrigued by human archetypes. MPDG is one of the more popular ones for female characters right now and it struck me, how limited it was and yet how many of us toe the line to it because it’s so popular. All the best in your personal journey and thank you very much for visiting my blog and commenting!

  13. I don’t know if this is true for everyone, but I have been a decidedly manic pixie dream girl for my whole life and am only now realising it. Would you say there is a significant difference between those who inadvertently take on the role of the exciting roller-coaster lady and those who deliberately invest in it?

    1. @Sketchpacker: I’m not sure there is a difference in the two types. I am naturally spontaneous, extroverted and cheerful. But quirkiness may be learnt behaviour as I discovered it got me attention of the kind I liked.

  14. I know people like this in real life. They’re fun, and seem to grow up to be quite interesting-not dull- people 🙂 Mostly writers…

  15. Hey, I am sort of addicted to TV tropes, too! If I had to describe myself as a stock character I’d probably be The Smart Guy (Girl) along with a Hollywood Nerd. That leads to me being a Badass Bookworm with a Motor Mouth who can be Little Miss Snarker at times.
    Greetings from Germany!

    1. @teilzeitanarchistin: And hello from Mumbai! Thank you for giving me one more reason to dip back into TVTropes. 😀 This was easily one of the best named character tropes. Even before I got to the end I thought of Hermione Granger and Gandalf the Grey and look, they both turned up in the examples!

      That’s often the kind of guy I end up going for. Interesting isn’t it, that the male tropes are not as well known? And the male tropes that are there are usually for side characters, not main ones like MPDG is supposed to be?

    1. @jeswanisumeet: The post is neither fiction nor is it about an imagined girl. The Manic Pixie Dream Girl is a kind of character used in fiction. See the links in the article to understand that description better. I think my post will make a lot more sense after you do that.

  16. Very interesting. I’m old now, thank goodness, but when I was young I was withdrawn, definitely not bubbly or cute. But I can identify with young women I know. They are toooo energetic for my old, laid back, things go wrong a lot, easy going attitude. But when I was that young shy awkward withdrawn loner, I soooooo wanted to be a MPDG. But no, I was in the corner watching. Sometimes when we are changing our ways, the pendulum swings far to the other side, then settles in the middle. You will find your comfort zone. Best wishes.

    1. @Silverwing Band: I’m actually protesting the limiting label of Manic Pixie Dream Girl, not shedding my natural exuberance and energy. These last two are a part of who I am in addition to a whole lot of other things. By dropping MPDGness, I’m saying, world, there’s more to me than cutesy entertainment value for needy men. Thank you for commenting and I hope you’ll be back soon!

    1. @thelamart: Thank you! Do leave your opinion on this post or any others here that catch your interest. I’m always up for a good discussion. 🙂

  17. Such a thoughtful post- It definitely reminds me of some of my own transformations, and inspired some serious “aha” moments. Thanks for sharing!

    1. @chloenigro: Thank you. And do share. This blog is a conversation and I’d love to hear about your own experiences as a woman, with transformation.

  18. Oh, how I wanted to be a MPDG when I was in my teens and twenties. 90s cinema has a lot to answer for. Unfortunately, I wasn’t petite and pretty enough – I have yet to see an overweight accountant type playing the role.

    1. @muddlingthroughmarlborough: From the other side of the fence, the grass is neither green nor palatable. Popular media does have a lot to answer for. And you’re right, come to think of it, I can’t recollect any MPDGs who weren’t petite/lean either.

    1. @Eilidh: Thank you! Please do leave your thoughts on this post and any other that you choose to read on the blog. I’m looking for conversations. These are the topics that interest me so if they do you too, please speak up.

  19. I think I’m very confused now. I’m starting to think that even though I have very little dating experience and have been single for over three years, perhaps I have unconsciously been a MPDG myself. Looking back at my “creative” ideas and published blogposts, they do show how bubbly I try to be, and my self-proclaimed spontaneity and creativity might actually just be pure madness. But my Facebook shows a completely different side of me as being a bit less immature and occasionally grumpy. Sometimes I wonder which one is the real me, yet I know I’m more honest on my blog. So if the real me is the one typing up this comment and publishing posts, am I spending too much effort to try to be liked, all the while being oblivious that I’m just a MPDG that is quirky mistaken as unique, shallow misinterpreted as carefree? I’m doubting myself now, unsure of if my way of living will eventually allow me to evolve, to grow up. Perhaps this is why I’m always causing troubles and disappointing others.

    1. @Christy: Don’t fall into that trap of self-doubt. MPDG is a limiting model imposed on women. It keeps us contained and fighting with ourselves, instead of going out and living fully. If you read the other articles on Manic Pixie Dream Girl, you’ll see how the trope is the only way a weak, needy man can accept women. There is more to a human being than how well they fit another person’s needs.

      My post was about realising this and breaking free of such labels as Manic Pixie Dream Girl. This doesn’t mean that I’ll give up my natural spontaneity or creativity. These are not bad things so don’t buy into anybody who tells you that they are. Good luck!

      1. Ohh I see what you mean now! We don’t need to be a damsel in distress or a MPDG to be liked by others, and we shouldn’t let others’ opinions limit us from becoming who we want to be, may it be a strong and independent woman or a kid at heart! <3

        1. @Christy: It’s partly that. Also, the conversations resulting from this post made me realise something else. I don’t need to feel apologetic for my natural spontaneity. If a man decides to see only that and slot me as an MPDG in his head, that’s his problem. I don’t need to buy into his limited opinion of me. There’s more to me than the parts that a man like that finds convenient.

          1. There are times when I’m confused of whether I’m being spontaneous or just immature and childish, and it makes me feel inadequate. But you’re right, if a person doesn’t even bother to get to know the other sides of me, he isn’t the right kind of people to hang out with anyway. Perhaps we should just ditch the MPDG or any other labels and live our lives the way we want while staying true to ourselves.

  20. Funny coincidence that I just watched ‘500 Days of Summer’ the other night! It got me thinking about the person I’ve been/am in different relationships. When I was younger and had a more carefree lifestyle it was easy to be the MPDR. Looking back I put a lot of work into maintaining it, and with one long-term boyfriend when I ran out of energy to keep it going, the relationship crumbled. Now I’m older I realise I tried (kind of halfheartedly) MPDR for just the first few months of dating my life partner. Eight years later, we’re still together and I’m pretty much just me, all the time. Normal. Not that fascinating. Not that adventurous. Not willing to put that much energy into getting someone to like me.

    1. @36viewsofblackmountain: Thank you so much for this comment. The last sentence especially, was inspiring. MPDR really is too much work and nobody should have to work so much to get another person to like them. I’m keeping that in mind as I go on.

    1. @fivefold: Sigh. Complicated. It’s so easy to keep falling back into patterns. Manic Pixie Dream Girl does get attention and it’s easy to mistake that for affection. This post was written last year and the conversations that sprung up now after it got featured on WordPress Freshly Pressed, reminded me that I may have lapsed back into MPDGness. Thank you for asking. It serves as a reminder that transformation is an arduous journey and it’s okay to stumble.

  21. All through college I was a manic pixie dream girl, after I was more of a woman-child. But I feel I’m maturing past that (only having graduated 2 years ago now). That said, it all depends on who I’m around. I’m a vaguely different version of myself in every social setting. Granted, until this post I never saw it that way – I blamed the way I was/am on my conservative christian upbringing, depression and recently discovered/ previously very confused asexuality. All that said, I am heavily influenced by film (more than I like to be) – maybe more than I realized.

    Thanks for the interesting post and for a great blog altogether. (sorry for the over-share)

    1. @Jennifer Nichole Wells: Please don’t apologise. A blog is a conversation, a mutual sharing, so thank you for telling your story. The point you’re making is interesting. I grew up in urban India with conflicting values and confusing messages about sexuality. It didn’t occur to me that those would be inputs into MPDGness too. Overall, I do believe that fiction like most other things on popular media is driven by and targeted at men. Women are just as nuanced and layered as men are. We are different in different situations. We should have the freedom to be all of that without restricting ourselves to a simplistic trope whose only function is to make an insecure man happy.

      All the best to you and thank you very much for commenting! I hope we can speak about other such things on urban womanhood too.

      1. Thank you. I completely agree with your take on media being targeted at men. And I think so many things can attribute to MPDGness. While it is something that has been portrayed through media, I think it may have existed before then- in at least some similar version. Women learn to act a certain way in order to get the attention and acceptance of men. I think this character in media only helps perpetuate this. Long story short, thank you for being so understanding and once again, for sharing this insightful post. ’til next time.

    1. @Poulomi.M: I don’t remember the character but an internet search shows her to be a minor one. The point my post was making was that even major female characters in fiction are limiting and serving only to men. I’m breaking free of one of those. You might want to consider what life looks like if you were to do the same, too.

  22. A very honest post. Unfortunately, the universe of female characters is not populated with many actual heroines, most are, like you say, supporting roles.
    Writing to you from beyond the age of 40, I can just say that you will keep evolving as a woman and as a true heroine of your life, and you will love it. Of this, I am sure.

    1. @Ana: I do hope so! At 35, I’m just taking stock of who I’ve been all this while and where I’m headed. Thank you for that and for commenting. 🙂