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  1. Also just to add, kids need to see love to be able to love. This means they must experience love from a parent or carer, but they also need to see a healthy loving relationship in parents or carers, and the more carers to show them love, the better their self esteem will be, specifially a father or mother isn’t necessary, I know perfectly happy adult kids with gay parents, or brought up by grandparents.
    My own partner is loving and affectionate with all 3, taking his lead from them, so he carries the baby in slings whenever he can, changes nappies, he cuddles & comforts the 4yo, and spends time chatting with the 9yo & taught her to ride a bike, plays kickabout with her. Basically, he’s interested in spending time with them, and that is so much bigger than words, gifts or money.

  2. I disagree, I think some men are definitely able to love and nurture a child just as much as a mother does, and equally some mothers are not as nurturing as some dads.
    In my own experience, my ex hubby was not able to cope with caring for kids as a full time father. My partner, however, shows no differentiation between my older 2 kids and our new baby. All 3 kids see him as their “everyday dad” tho the older 2 see their father and have a good relationship. The interesting addendum to this is my ex & my new man get on well, respect each other, and my ex will gladly include the new child when he sees the older 2. It’s a blended modern family at its best.

  3. Most Dad cannot give their kids the emotional support which is really needed . This is evident by the rise in alcoholism ,the riots in London etc.

    Totally agree with “The difference lies in the ‘some’ and the ‘most’.” .Sadly the co-dependence syndorm woman in india (and less else where) suffer make it difficult for them to take corrective action

  4. @ alazyguy: Point taken. However human beings do need tangible expressions of love – words, actions, physical intimacy….this is something even the psychologists recommend because it is healthy.

    Overexpression is something else altogether. I’m totally put off by excessive displays of emotion, melodrama and *shudder* people who cry at the drop of a hat. Cold people (male or female) are equally bad, I agree.

  5. Guys prefer to hold back on their emotions. They are emotionally very shy. Call it genes, society, whatever.

    That does not mean that they can’t be good parents.

    Are you telling me that a good father is one who always holds the baby in the arms, kisses and cuddles the baby, and express every emotion explicitly?

    So being expressive is being a good father?

    The baby is going to be hyper sensitive human equivalent to a mix of Shahrukh Khan and Kareena Kapoor – with “too many emotions” shown in the face.

    Don’t you think a bit self constraint in showing your expressions is worth in a parent?

    By the way, over expressive women have a very high percantage of selfish people to – of the same category as the cold men mentioned above.

  6. ha! you think father penguins and father catfish are good- what about the father sea horse… now THAT’s one progessive male *sigh*

  7. Come by the place where I volunteer in summers. There is only one male volunteer, and all he does is take care of 35 lil kids. And he’s taken a leave from his job for the fortnight for it. And when he did volunteer, he had no idea he would latch on to the kids that way. Some men do have an inherent paternal capacity. And most women have an inherent maternal capacity.

    The difference lies in the ‘some’ and the ‘most’.