Protection – A Monologue
A man’s protection of a woman – what is the foundation of this? And how does this masculine protectiveness work for a modern, independent woman?
Masculinity
The Younger Man
So I’ve done the ‘date a younger guy’ thing too. Don’t I sound deliciously cold about it? A once young nineteen-year-old me, on hearing about a friend’s new boyfriend exclaimed, But he’s younger than you! to which I got a succinct, if somewhat stiff, “So?” Well, I don’t know. I…
Dancing In The Rain
I love this song. Unabashedly. I wish I could dance outside in the rain singing this very song. In fact, maybe I will. I was talking to a friend about (what else?) a guy we both knew. Nothing much to tell except that he was cute and thought I was…
What Do We Look For In A Partner?
I asked Twitter what we look for in a partner. The responses made me ponder strength and how I seek it out in men. And other things that people look for.
Independent, Not Men-O-Phobic
I find myself in a hectic life, juggling plans, people and work. And none of these plans are centered around men. What does that make me now?
The Death Of Prince Charming
It occurs to me that I’m in the final stages of recuperation. Or rather, I’m like someone who was ill for a very long time without knowing it, then hospitalised, recovered, had a relapse and is now watching the last of the scabs fall off, the scars fade away. Melodramatic,…
Manguide 6: Alcohol
Alcohol is like a man. In its many variations, delightful or otherwise, it mirrors the vagaries of my favorite vice. Here’s how. Breezer – This is the boy you grew up with, the one who sat next to you in fourth grade and helped you with your homework. You don’t…
So There, Needy!
You may want to feel needed,But that’s no reason to make me feel needy. It doesn’t say much about your masculinity,if it feels threatened by my independence. I’d rather be alonethan with someone who needs to change meI’d rather be alonethan be someone other than myself.
Non Sequitur*
The Non-relationship because… The Non-conversation because… The Non-boyfriend because… The Non-breakup because… When did we ever say anything about getting together? *Latin for “It does not follow”. Just like men and relationships. Hmph.
Settle For To Settle Down
I’m reading a book called Rubbish Boyfriends. But hang on, that’s not all that’s responsible for this mood o’ mine. I’ve been talking (and talking and talking) to the following women: A has been steadily (as opposed to happily) married to a ‘Who says we get it right the first…