The Idea-Smithy – an Indian feminist blog by Ramya Pandyan

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No, I Do Not Want To Take Your Dating App Virginity
February 6, 2019September 16, 2023
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Dating app virgins who open with “This is my first time here”. The Indian man is already an unappetizing offering on a dating app. But a dating app virgin?

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The Sign Of Confusion
February 4, 2019August 28, 2023
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How scared we are on confusion, to even admit to being confused!

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Politics & Feminism | Relationships

I’m Calling Bullshit on Wokebro Fuckbois
February 2, 2019August 28, 2023
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The wokebro is just a guy using the feminism fad for personal gain. I call bullshit.

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Rules Of Engagement
February 2, 2019August 28, 2023
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We only remember the two extremes of love and war. But conflict and alliance are inseparable.The rules of engagement are very clear.

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Technicolour Prisms
January 29, 2019March 28, 2023
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The past is technicolour and we are the prisms that make it so.

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Part Time Lovers
January 28, 2019July 16, 2023
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The 60s talked of free love. Millennials say fuck-buddies or if they want to be nice, friends-with-benefits. How do we navigate our many lovers?

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A Connoisseur Of NOs
January 26, 2019August 28, 2023
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No. It’s the scariest word in language. It drives people into frenzy. It sits deep inside the heart, every No we’ve heard.

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Be Incomplete
January 24, 2019July 16, 2023
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Today I didn’t feel cool, collected or in control. Today I was incomplete.

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What You Thought The Future Was Going To Be
January 23, 2019May 13, 2023
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The hardest thing to let go of, is what you thought the future was going to be.

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10 Years Is A Long Time On A Ferris Wheel Called Life
January 22, 2019August 28, 2023
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I did the #10YearChallenge, placing a photo of me from 2009 side-by-side with one from me now. It brought up life lessons.

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IdeaSmith on A Post-40 Primer On Friendship With Men: Hope & Betrayal: “@Soumya: Thank you for reading and commenting. Yes, I’ve had a good male role model. Unfortunately for me, I’ve encountered…”
IdeaSmith on Trusting My Judgement Again: Thanks Meena Kandasamy & The Rookie: “@krist0ph3r: ‘Judgement as mental shorthand’ is a great way to look at it. It’s narrow to think of judgementalism as…”
Soumya on A Post-40 Primer On Friendship With Men: Hope & Betrayal: “Hi Ramya, Firstly, my congratulations on a well written post. It didn’t pull its punches. Secondly, it was lovely to…”
krist0ph3r on Trusting My Judgement Again: Thanks Meena Kandasamy & The Rookie: “Wow, that was a lot to process and at some point it got too much for me to handle reading.…”
IdeaSmith on When Did Reading Become Performance?: “@Sid: Oh god, you’re right.”
Sid on When Did Reading Become Performance?: “I think the Poser Reader sentiment also comes from the branding reading as a hobby has had. Successful people say…”
Topher on Lit Crush: Gabrielle Zevin ‘s Tomorrow & Tomorrow & Tomorrow, The Storied Life of A.J.Fikry: “I too struggle greatly with problematic people who make great things. As a child Bill Cosby brought YEARS of joy…”
IdeaSmith on A Non-Medical View Of The Uterus: Blood, Babies & Hysteria: “@XXfan: Yes, it appears to be a legal requirement for the hospital to show the removed parts to kin, probably…”
Xxfan on A Non-Medical View Of The Uterus: Blood, Babies & Hysteria: “I experience with hysterectomy made me more mature.my mom had to have a hysterectomy.this was my first experience handling everything…”
IdeaSmith on When Did Reading Become Performance?: “@Slogan Murugan: Indeed. Books were always fascinating but this year has been about the people and spaces around books as…”