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  2. @ Mirror: I considered it but I found I just wasn’t interested in women beyond looking at them. And yes, we encourage direct communication at XXFactor (OTT is even better!) 😀

    @ La Vida Loca: That’s an insult to both straight and gay women. Sexuality is a personal choice and there’s really no need to straitjacket a person based on what they admire. But I guess men also tend to have a little more trouble accepting homosexuality than women do.

  3. I admire womens’ bodies to the extent that I get teased about being gay. But I have no desire to get physical w/ them. Most ppl(men) just dont get it. I wonder why?

  4. Trust me (and I am a woman, so you can indeed trust me even AFTER I’ve said that) — being attracted to certain people (irrespective of gender) comes naturally to most people. But our minds instinctively shut out the idea of a sexual encounter, due to societal conditioning and the “idea” of the way things ought to be. And yes, trust me, do try going beyond the passive admiration. But then again, it should not seem like you have to “try” to do so. One doesn’t have to look at it as replacement therapy and “turn” lesbian, bisexual or bi-curious, or what have you, for that.
    Direct this may be, but hey, just living up to my name. 🙂

  5. @ Pragni: I would guess so. I’m pleasantly surprised by the response that this post got from women!

    @ n: I would think that it holds true for all human beings, irrespective of gender. But yes, men seem to get more jittery about the grey shades of their sexuality! Hmm….write a post, controversy always stirs up publicity! 😉

  6. hmm I personally would think it boils down to how comfortable you are with your own body and sexuality, before admiring another one of your own sex. I know I’ve openly admired chiselled men with rippling muscles, the works..and said “DAMN that guy is hot” without feelin the least bit gay 🙂 physical beauty in any form should be appreciated…if someone wants to form that appreciation as lust, so be it 😉 that said, if a GUY had written the same post, he woulda been classified as definitely havin non platonic feelings for the woman yes?:)

  7. i also have this vague theory abt how all women are inherent bi-sexual, but in varying degrees :D, ha. basically, women don’t have a fear of other women’s bodies, the way men do of their own kind. mebbe i shud put it on the blog, would fetch me a lot of traffic. 😉

  8. when I’m on the train and i see someone interesting enough, my first coherent thought is whether she too blogs or not.. I guess Im blog-addicted.. I think every woman has the basic curiosity for other women. Most people who have blogged here have admitted to it, and so do I. If the rest deny it, then I think that’s what it is. Basic denial coz they fear societal taboos and stereotypes…

  9. @ Selma: ‘Bi-curious’ is a good word…except it’ll get you some very strange requests for friendship on orkut. 🙂

    @ N: I think men are generally more judgmental…only because most things are unidimensional in their mindsets. On the other hand, I’m quite binary myself.

    @ DC: I so do know…! 😉

  10. I look at women all the time. More than I look at men perhaps. Her hair, how she walks,the glow of her skin, her clothes. Its appreciation, its admiration. I’ve never thought of it as having any overtly lesbian tones. I mean I would look at the female body anyday over the male body. You know what I mean ?

  11. i know men like to claim that women only bitch abt other women. but the truth is that i admire women to, and im not as critical as a number of men i know. i thot a lot of it had to do with studying in a college ful of women and all of them smart, intelligent ones who carried themselves and their clothes with elan. you cudn’t help but admire 😀

  12. I do admire a lot of women too. I don’t know if that means anything. Or maybe I should change my orkut profile back to bi-curious 🙂
    Women definitely are softer than men, maybe more comforting.

    Traveling in trains is the most relaxing activity for me. I can sit back and look at how different people behave. This whole world, relationships, everything – its just powerplay. And I love watching it unroll. It feels like watching a good movie.

  13. The men need not comment. We appreciate the female form in its entirety and acknowledge the fact that its perfectly natural for two women to appreciate each other.

    However, I must say that i find it absolutely strange that if a man says the exact same thing that ideasmithy has said, he’s called a pervert! Its truly an unequal world …..:)

  14. Wow, I so agree with this post! My friends always tease me that I check out other women, and although I never want to be with them, I guess, I agree on the line, ‘I wish I could be in that body’, I wonder how it is to be her!

    Beautiful, beautiful post!!

  15. @ ideasmithy: the thought “I wish i could be in that body” did cross my mind sometime…hahaha! But not in the sense that a guy would be thinking the same thing. So yes, to a certain kind of lustful. And I completely agree with “one woman to other woman ” there…

  16. @ Ratz: That’s a thought. Then again, do you suppose there is something faintly lustful about true appreciation? There is some semblance of it in people who crave some kind of food…lust, that is. And I’ve felt like I’m fairly overcome by lust when I see some particular masterpiece of art. Hmm…

    @ One woman: Maybe I just will! 🙂

  17. Who says women cant gaze at women? I do, on buses , on the subway, on the street, furitively and unabashedly.

    Sometimes, I am struck by the way she holds her head, sometimes by her walk, strong, bold , purposeful strides. Sometimes, it might be just the way she laughs and the way her teeth show glinting! But mostly what often grabs my attention will be the hair. Sometimes she will look right back and give me a smile, an acknowledgement.

    Its perhaps not the same when a man looks at a woman, because there is no element of lust, sexual tension maybe.

    Its possibly an art of appreciation.