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    1. @fiestygirl: Thengyu! The blue shrug was to tone down the severe, formal ‘dress-to-kill’ness of the outfit. It was just a simple dinner out after all.

    1. @Lakshmi: Thanks for sharing that link. The thing is, I suspect most of the trolls on my blogs are people who just get a kick out of saying offensive things online (sort of like kids spraying dirty word graffiti). They don’t usually listen to polite reasoning so I’m not sure if they’ll even bother reading this page, let alone following it. So I think I’ll just be preaching to the converted (or the anyway-decent-and-sensible in this case). As a policy, I try not to moderate comments too much or be rude. When it gets to personal attacks, I usually warn the person and if they still persist, I filter them out. The trolling has increased recently but I still don’t want to penalize my better-minded readers. But if it reaches unmanageable proportions, I may need to bring in a stronger filtering policy.

      1. “The thing is, I suspect most of the trolls on my blogs are people who just get a kick out of saying offensive things online (sort of like kids spraying dirty word graffiti). They don’t usually listen to polite reasoning so I’m not sure if they’ll even bother reading this page, let alone following it.”

        That’s why they’re trolls! This is your space. If anyone is mean or rude, mark them as spam/filter them out. Don’t even bother to reason. Why should you spend your energy talking to folks who are ONLY there to heckle you? If they wanted to have a decent conversation, they wouldn’t be saying such awful things anyway.

        1. @Lakshmi: Discerning those trolls from people who’ve just expressed an opinion, umm, strongly is tricky. See my conversations with one M in this very same comment-thread.

  1. Fair enuf. More than fair actually, m surprised you haven’t deleted any of my comments, parts of which, in retrospect, are less than kind. I assume you’re dealing with much worse. Well, good luck with that and be safe. My respect for you just went up 5 notches, FWIW! 🙂

    PS: yep, same person.

  2. Also you shouldn’t be touchy (I suspect, nay KNOW) about comments like the ones I made about your clothes. Learn to appreciate honestly, if the intention of my words was to hurt, I could do a lot worse, I assure you.

  3. I would find them cheap, but still tell you you looked nice, IRL. The internet affords us something special, a degree of honesty that we can’t have in real life. Sadly you can’t have it online either and have to be all uppity and tight-assed about stuff cuz you have a real reputation to protect. Also, I think you should get real and stop kidding yourself about all this blurring crap. You’ve posted your name and face several times on this space and selective censorship makes you look just coy or plain dumb. And I don’t think you’re being coy.

    1. @M: Honesty is well-appreciated. You have an opinion and so do I. We don’t need to agree and that doesn’t make you a troll or me, ‘touchy’ or ‘uppity and tight-assed’. Your comments are welcome when they’re your opinions. Let’s not take this down to name-calling, please.

      And like I said in the update, I don’t wish to discuss the issue of anonymity any further.

  4. The clothes don’t work for you, Ramya. And don’t even get me started about the boots! But you’re frikkin gorgeous, as usual. 🙂

  5. A dress would go with the boots too. Or skinny jeans. That’s a lovely scarf… you’re rocking that look!

    What ‘nice’ restaurant is this? Just curious… 🙂

    1. @Lakshmi: The dress, yes. Only my dresses are all summery shifts and those boots are torture during the hot season! Also, they’re not quite roomy enough to fit jeans inside but also too broad to pull the jeans over them. That’s why I end up with the short skirt look everytime with them.

      The scarf is a bandhini print, would you believe? I didn’t even realise it till I wrote this post and mum told me (she’s the one who bought it).

      ‘Nice’ I said because I didn’t really like the food or the service. I’ll DM you the details if you like.

  6. a li’l too loo loose on the calf, isnt it ? 😛

    Sorry if you considered this comment trolling. To balance it out, I’ll say – very nice scarf ! 😀

    1. @sahu: A personal attack would count as trolling. But this is your (inoffensive opinion and it’s welcome at The Idea-smithy. 🙂 About the loose-around-calves, I think the traditional boot design actually was that. I don’t know whether this pair was meant to be worn fitting tightly on the legs but I don’t think it looks too bad this way either. And thank you about the scarf too – it’s a bandhini print, by the way (something I forgot to mention in the post).