39 Looks Like This
Don’t erase my history and tell me that it’s a compliment. 39 looks like this.
Home & Identity
Finding home & a sense of belonging within shifting identity politics of geography, region, language, politics, ideologies and culture.
Be Incomplete
Today I didn’t feel cool, collected or in control. Today I was incomplete.
10 Years Is A Long Time On A Ferris Wheel Called Life
I did the #10YearChallenge, placing a photo of me from 2009 side-by-side with one from me now. It brought up life lessons.
Alone Time Doesn’t Always Look Like This
Alone time doesn’t always look like this. More often than not, it’s faded, crumpled, tattered even. But it’s important.
I Don’t Celebrate Halloween, Can I Leave?
“I don’t think he ever actually liked me,” I told a friend last week. Incredulous, he asked me, then why was he with you?
AgentsOfIshq: ‘You Should Wear Maroon For Your Skin’ And Other Advice I’ve Ignored As A Non-Fair Woman
AgentsOfIshq ran a story of mine on dark skin pride and my love of colour.
The Heads Or Tails Of Digital Dating
I switched dating apps. No, this time it wasn’t because awful people drove me away. It’s because Tinder kept demanding my phone number and wouldn’t let me login without it. I’ve never indulged corporations that think they can hold me to ransom, especially when I have a choice. So my…
I Know It’s Pride Month But I Hate Strangelove | GaysiFamily
I called rainbowwashing in pride month. Alex Strangelove is narcissistic and an insulting representation of queer people.
Judgements In June
Is your first thought of a stranger an uncharitable one? What do your judgements say about you?
The Lowest Priority Box
Last week, I drew a line and said, “I’m done. No more. Goodbye.” I have lived through the dreadfulness of limbo, the sheer callousness of men who will not spend a minute reflecting on their feelings. And you know what? It is just not that important any more. 2017 wrecked…