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  1. @ La Vida Loca: I don’t doubt any of that. For the rest of us who haven’t been so lucky with finding someone like that, analysis is all that keeps us entertained.

  2. You have certainly thrown out a lot. :mrgreen:
    I want to say one can *think* about relationships, or one can *feel* about them, analyze them to death on the lines of what’s normal and what’s absolute, what’s relative, what’s everybody doing…and so forth. But that just doesn’t work for me (us).

    My joy comes from the mundane/ everyday stuff,accepting him as he is, looking at the hubby and thinking that he is indeed a fantastic guy and that I chose right. And the old stand by emotion, points to joy.

    I realize this is a cliche, but it works for us.

    La Vida Locas last idea: Truth time

  3. Comfort level is great for sex I think. You can* have a candid discussion and ask for what you want and what u can do.

    Attraction/ chemistry is kinda basic. Otherwise how is a partner different from a friend. Eg- I have several guy friends and the only person that tugs my heart is the hubby.

    Respect/ common ground- isn’t that essential for love and/ or friendship?

    Hmmm now I am beginning to get confused. BUT the hubby and I were best buddies before love made an appearance.

    Ok now I understand your first question. To me it went like this (in its over simplified version)- some common ground, A LOT of respect, friendship, attraction, love, commitment.

    I’ll prolly come back and comment some more, when I have this processed..

    La Vida Locas last idea: An update

  4. Ph.d in Emotion??? huh now you are getting emotional……. 🙂

    //// * Differing points of view can extend your Respect for each other’s intelligence and independence but what does that do to Comfort Level and Complementing Personalities?

    Yeah but it all goes well only if it is a dynamic balance.btw both…. a static equilibrium…. tends to make it like a corporate contract…….

    ///// * How does sex play out – If there’s too much Comfort Level, do Attraction and Fun suffer?

    Attraction– may be……..depends onur personal criteria for attraction……….(wow now i am thinking have i attracted her with these comments?? :))

    /////// * Is Committment possible without Attraction or can it actually cover for the lack of it?
    it can cover for lack of attraction but tends to result in static equilibrium(corporate contract [previous comment])
    I would like to believe it is not possible without attraction(works out for my idea of a relationship) and attraction is necessary but not sufficient…

    /////// * Can Respect replace Shared Grounds? And vice versa?
    Hmm….. it does but i doubt that case will again go to the corporate contract stage….

    ///// * How important is Complementing Personalities? Can a relationship sustain if it is strong on the others but not on this?
    am getting redundant.. here…..again leads to corporate contracts..

    ///// * How do Fun and Committment offset each other? Or do they clash and inevitably get entangled with Respect?

    Am not sure i can comment on it as i understand the question…