A boundary is a lesson in consent, which in turn is rooted in a sense of self. Who you are says what you allow. A boundary is not a weapon or defense mechanism – these are escapes. Boundaries force you to do the hard work of taking responsibility for what you need & making it happen instead of playing victim.
...continue readingI met him at an event I was hosting. The growing crowds and reactions told me I was doing well. It was welcome respite from the morning’s fight, a common occurrence in the horror story I was living inside. I was aware of him through the whole day, even as I juggled conversations and thoughts, feeling the headiness of a juggler who
...continue readingThere’s a set we’re walking on, Tripping wires, treading toes, But you treat it like a dress rehearsal While I call it, ‘Just one of my shows’ Life is theatre, baby and the tickets sold out There will be no encore So let’s give this story, one true shot. =============================================================== If you liked this post, you’ll want to follow the
...continue readingI heard someone describe three other people’s interaction as ‘ritualised’. It made me think of the forced inanities that people thrust on each other, the scripts that we impose on each other and that we find ourselves following. The delighted welcomes, the whine exchanges, the mutual enabling of vices – aren’t these the traits of many long-running relationships? Some of us find
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The last time Adi was in town, I asked him, “So what do you want to do?” He sounded surprised, then he said, “Errr, meet?” “Yes, but what do you want to do?” I persisted. “Talk. Hang out. Chat. That’s all.” he said. Later we talked about this. He said that people in this city don’t seem to value conversations.
...continue readingI have had a startling revelation that will revolutionize the way we look at relationships and well, men! Everyone knows Bad Boys are bad news. Meh, that’s last century’s news. And yet – or possibly exactly for that reason – we are drawn to them and spend a considerable bit of our prime chasing illusions of acquaintanceship with them. But
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