I’m declaring war on the introverts

Most Thought Catalog posts inspire strong emotion in me. This one though, does that in a ‘I wish I’d never met you. I wish I’d never met you.’ way.

For the better part of my life, I’ve been intrigued by people who aren’t like me. That is to say, people who don’t appear to be so overwhelmed with emotion that they have to spill it out, in tears, in words or at very least in affection, as unwanted as that might be. People with dignity. People with polish. People who’re measured and guarded. People who define cool.

I’ve now come to the long-delayed conclusion that I was wrong. They aren’t better than I am. This article appears to make an argument for just that kind of person. From having spent a tedious, fruitless, agonizing, hateful two years with exactly this kind of person, I’ve decided I’ve had enough.

I’ve decided that I have no more sympathy for people who want to call themselves ‘guarded’ and excuse themselves from being loving. You don’t get to excuse yourself from the love table if you’re still partaking of its delights. You give as you take. But not for these people. Enough, I say with the self-absorbed bullshit of the so-called introverts.

Everybody hurts, you know that? Bad experiences make every single of us cringe and cower in fear. You do not have sole rights to that place, we’ve all been there. But some of us have made it out. You didn’t and that does not make you superior; it bloody makes you a weakling. I might be compassionate towards one less priveleged or weaker than I am. But you wear away all of that since you expect compassion and effort from everyone else as a fundamental birthright. You’re a coward, you are. If I face you down and ask you to hit me with your best shot, what are you going to use? Indifference? The superficiality of ‘That’s not cool.’? The weak last-resort of condescension and sarcasm? No, you miserable bit of nothingness, you run. That’s what you do. You run because you’re bloody scared of life, of all that it represents and all the possible hurt it could inflict on you. And so you fear people who don’t seem to fear it that way.

Enough, assholes. Get on your feet and start living. Start feeling, jump into the painful, scary, unpredictable adventure called life. Stop sitting by the sidelines and telling me I’m beneath you because I’m doing so. I’m knocking you off your bloody pedestals.


  1. I like your take on the absurdity of the ‘high-horse’ approach some introverts take. I am completely with you on that. Who is to say that being guarded and feigning an air of complexity is the way to live‽ But, I am and do know introverts who are simply shy to open up. I take some time to confide or let my feelings known to people. But, once it rains it pours for me.
    Please don’t declare war on people like us, just yet 😉

    1. @aparnateur: Ah, I wouldn’t call that introversion! Well, this isn’t the strict dictionary or the psychology definition, just my own. Shyness is okay in my books, discerning & cautious even, both qualities I admire. So no, you’re not the enemy as far as I’m concerned! 😀

  2. I’m declaring war on stupid blog posts
    Your post seems like a rant about an experience you’ve had with 1 person and without actually checking facts, you have unintelligibly gone ahead and applied your narrow minded logic to generalize it to all “introverts”. I consider myself to be an introvert and it has nothing to do with ‘bad experiences’ as you say so in your blog. If you know anything about introverts, you would know we they do not consider ourselves to be superior. How you came to this conclusion is a mystery to me. Don’t believe me, try googling articles about introverts and prepare to be shocked. You may need to sit down while reading, for all your illogical pre conceived notions about them are about to be shattered. You are right about this hypothetical scenario you came up with that involves you (and I quote) “face you down and ask you to hit you with your best shot”, I would run away. Not because I am coward and bloody scared of life, but because I’d think you were off your rockers. I mean c’mon even extroverts don’t go up to random people saying that. That’s just….. not right.
    “Enough assholes, get on your feet and start living” … seriously?? you think we don’t live? That’s a pretty ridiculous assumption you have right there. And I am not even going to go into that. Read it once more and let the absurdity of that sentence sink in.
    And don’t even go down the “This is my blog. Personal.. blah blah” road. If its personal, why is it open to public ?

    1. @Andy Garrteh: I’ve just one thing to say to you: ‘Personal’ is not the same thing as ‘private’. Go look up the difference. And this is my blog so if your comments get too nasty for my taste, I’ll just block you. Capiche?

  3. Lol.. so you decide to respond to just that 1 sentence ?!!?! You had a chance to “hit me with your best shot” and you respond with indifference!! Where’s your extrovert spunky-ness now?
    And about you blocking me coz my comments are too nasty for your taste, don’t bother. Fortunately for you, your blog has gotten too stupid for my taste, so you won’t see me wasting any more time here.

    Although, I can’t resist, wouldn’t you blocking me be taking the easy way out? (Like the cowards you’ve made us introverts out to be?). A little hypocritical don’t cha think??

  4. i am so glad to read this I. I love it. and i agree with every single thing you said. we will find our kind. i am sure about that. 🙂 take care and all the best.

  5. Thats dangerous don’t ever make us you’re enemies we will destroy you ! for adleast thousand years we had enought of you’re bullshit, extroverts understand you’re weaker than us. The more you shun us the more powerfull we become , thats how we work. Don’t be stupid ..we can be a very reliable allies or tenacious enemies, we won’t stop as long as we have a reason. Extroverts you imposed you’re will on us for ages, but now this is coming to an end, we are starting to organize and if we feel the need to destroy you we will… threating our way or trying to adapt us to you’re kind is frustrating and troublesome, it shall end in you’re demise when we overtake you’re position. Destroy you’re hierarchy and burn you’re world,we thrive in the darkness we are the demons, the monsters you extroverts created by the lack of will to accept our difference, and the time to pay you back will eventually come.

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