How do you tell someone
that you don’t care for them anymore?

I guess you don’t.

19 thoughts on “Haiku: Anti-Closure”
  1. Oh no.. I think you should tell them that! If the last meeting was bitter, it will satisfy your ego.. if it was amicable, it will be a great closure… πŸ™‚

  2. Okay.. in real life also, I did that!
    One last meeting was disastrous, and I made sure that the guy doesn’t mean a thing to mean, and told him that. Not that it mattered to him too… πŸ™‚
    In another case where the last meeting was very amicable, I could not say that. It took me 3 years to realize that I need to tell the guy that I don’t care for him the same way anymore, and I did that. It was received very well, and I was glad I did that, and also proud of him that he received it well, even after such a long time of us being together!

    I know this might be the case where this post was written, but I believe that once you clearly announce what’s on your head, the world becomes a better place for you to live! πŸ™‚

    Ms Taggarts last idea: Amnesia!

  3. Okay.. in real life also, I did that!
    One last meeting was disastrous, and I made sure that the guy doesn’t mean a thing to mean, and told him that. Not that it mattered to him too… πŸ™‚
    In another case where the last meeting was very amicable, I could not say that. It took me 3 years to realize that I need to tell the guy that I don’t care for him the same way anymore, and I did that. It was received very well, and I was glad I did that, and also proud of him that he received it well, even after such a long time of us being together!

    I know this might not be the case where this post was written, but I believe that once you clearly announce what’s on your head, the world becomes a better place for you to live! πŸ™‚

    Ms Taggarts last idea: Amnesia!

  4. @ Ms Taggart: So I’d have thought. But people differ.

    @ Emma: ‘as though you don’t care anymore’? If you do care for them, why would you want to get away from them?

    @ Dreamcatcher: Some things are better written about than experienced.

  5. Don’t care for them or don’t love them any more or don’t want a relationship with them? You could care for a person and love them but sometimes their ideology makes it very difficult for you to live with them, right? But to amicably answer your question – I guess you don’t. Its something that nature teaches us; a dove as pet if takes every opportunity to peck at the cage door and flies off as soon as it gets the first whiff of freedom is better gone…

    It would be really great if you get the time to go through this post:

    http://venusmoonboy.blogspot.com/2008/12/who-doesnt-like-realistic-dream-of.html

    Biju Mathewss last idea: The "Traditional" Shiv Ram Sena Theory

  6. I have said that to some and heard that from some.
    And also had closure with some even though there was plenty of liking on both sides.
    What I find to be common to all situations is pain and disbelief on one side, and a misplaced sense of mercifulness on the other.
    I have done away with the mercy when I am dishing it out though.
    That keeps ’em away from dangerous me. But I somehow seem to need mercy when I have to stomach it myself. Why oh why don’t I grow up!!!!! πŸ™

  7. Ha! I dont know if this is just a haiku or truth. Though I dont follow the indian blogosphere, the reader keeps on popping recommendations, Apparently u have around 150 subscriptions; anyway checked the first post and had to comment.

    we have an elaborate ritual lasting about half an hour – including returning things left behind ( of each other) etc. and if u have more time revisit snaps, places that u’d been together. I guess its important, say n do all that coz i dont believe you dont care for him/her anymore. I guess you dont feel like used to. so its healthy to say that and a final tc n fullstop. It’s hard but has to be done to move on.

    PS – Like ur rick snap. try the french fringe, guess it works better wit ur oval face.

  8. @ Tanuj Lakhina: That’s honest. At least.

    @ Biju Matthews: Point taken. But don’t they at least deserve the courtesy of being told that honestly?

    @ Dreamcatcher: On it.

    @ Rakhi: Mercy is not an idea that sits well on me, dishing it out or – even worse – receiving it. It sounds disrespectful somehow.

    @ Hope: Absolutely!

    @ Sunil: Well, this is a blog so it’s an interactive forum. It belongs to a chronic thinker so in a lot of cases I don’t have an answer to the questions I raise. Other people are welcome to read for their entertainment, because they identify with it and/or share their thoughts. Thanks for the compliment on the header – it is an old photograph used only for symbolic purposes.

  9. i totally get your point of view. i guess i chose the wrong word. But whatever it is, goodbyes are lousy. and hence i am thinking of forgoing hellos from now on.

  10. @ Ashish: And I.

    @ Rakhi: Hmm. That reminds me of a conversation from ‘Hitch’. “So I guess it’s best to not ever fall in love?” “Or skate.”

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