Navigating the Feels

𝗜 𝗗𝗢𝗡’𝗧 𝗪𝗔𝗡𝗧 𝗧𝗢 𝗠𝗢𝗩𝗘 𝗢𝗡

November 25, 2021 by IdeaSmith

I’ve done it before. Many times, many ways. ‘Moving on’ contains an element of escapism. Do you know how I know? Because the next thing that gets said is, “What else will you do?” There is taking action in an extreme situation like abuse. But many of us ‘move on’ as a way to escape ...

Soft Places

October 30, 2021October 23, 2021 by IdeaSmith

You can be grateful for the beauty & also upset at the ugliness. The things that inspire these co-exist & sometimes in the same place. Why would the feelings that these bring up, not be able to occupy the same mind simultaneously? Human beings can feel more than one feeling at a time. And one ... Read More

When Abandonment Wounds Are Your Teacher

October 27, 2021October 23, 2021 by IdeaSmith

There comes a point when you have to act like the person who left you will never come back. It’s essential to accept it in order to seek healing. But at some point, you must also ask yourself that if they do return, whether you’ll take them back. That’ll tell you if you’re healing or ... Read More

Learning To Read Poetry

October 9, 2021 by IdeaSmith

One of the nicest things I’ve experienced recently has been going to a bookshop. A bonafide, books neatly arranged on shelves by aisles bookshop. It’s been so long since I was in a bookshop at all. My Landmark love lies a decade in my past. And since then, I’m afraid I’ve let the old-person thing ... Read More

The Love Depths

October 1, 2021October 1, 2021 by IdeaSmith

We don’t love people because they deserve it. We love people because we deserve it. Because this feeling is a healing one. It’s joyful and ticklish and inspiring and uplifting. We all deserve to feel that way some time. It can feel like hurt & pain, especially if like me, you’ve received wounds early in ... Read More

The Unbearable Kitsch Of A Kundera Life

September 27, 2021September 27, 2021 by IdeaSmith

This is the book that set me on the cultural stereotype path that I would live out for the next 16 years (and still going?). The people I hungered to be around in the 2000s (MNC-employed, literature spouting, pretension-grooming) spoke eloquently about Milan Kundera and Haruki Murakami. Of course many of them pronounced the former ... Read More

Love Language

September 18, 2021September 18, 2021 by IdeaSmith

LOVE LANGUAGE - my journey deciphering my experiences through the words of love songs in different languages

𝗗𝗜𝗚𝗡𝗜𝗧𝗬 𝗜𝗡 𝗔 𝗪𝗢𝗥𝗟𝗗 𝗢𝗙 𝗧𝗨𝗠𝗨𝗟𝗧

September 10, 2021September 9, 2021 by IdeaSmith

I’ve been thinking about dignity. I do, a lot, especially when I feel I’ve not been dignified. I haven’t felt it lately because I haven’t felt in control of anything. But dignity isn’t about control, is it? I realised that most of my emotional decisions were trauma reactions. It wasn’t devastating even if it did ...

So Long & Thanks For All The Sunshine!

September 8, 2021September 9, 2021 by IdeaSmith

I have never enjoyed the rain & we have at least another month of it. My allergies flare up, I struggle to breathe, everything smells musty, feels itchy. And the grey, gloomy skies dampen my immunity & my spirits.I’ve been cycling for a month now. Tentatively & then defensively, first against bully male drivers, then ... Read More

🆃🅷🅴 🅿🅾🅻🅸🆃🅸🅲🅰🅻 🅸🆂🅽’🆃 🅹🆄🆂🆃 🅿🅴🆁🆂🅾🅽🅰🅻, 🅸🆃’🆂 🅴🅼🅾🆃🅸🅾🅽🅰🅻

August 15, 2021September 4, 2021 by IdeaSmith

Why do abused women support misogynist regimes? Maybe it’s because their violators were feminists. What, is that not possible? Yes, it is. I’m living proof that it happens. Feminism, activism, promises & politics are words. Hot air, marks on surfaces. Sometimes those marks are wounds on bodies & minds. Ideas are pure thought but ideologies ...

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