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  1. Sudden Truth in life can be senseless and fraught with illogic arguments. This post upsets none and guess our male egos come in the way. So much anger when the debate should be healthy and as sane humans, we shouldn’t entertain insult on a woman, read, human being. I rest my case.

    1. Yeah, I get where she’s coming from but it’s still bizarre… Especially because of the reverse victimization or well, blaming men for just being men/ who may not necessarily do the bad things that other men do. No civilized western man would ever do what Ideasmithy alleges/thinks we get away with all the time.

    2. I like the ideasmithy, that’s why I even read this blog. But it’s hard to call this post anything other than misandry. It’s very hateful and highly illogicial. I don’t have an axe to grind so, …I will just stop talking.

      1. @Suddenly Truth: You have been nothing but a troll to my blogs. Go ahead and live inside your illusions of being a blameless, ‘nice guy’. One of these days your comments are going to irritate me enough to take action. Harassing a woman is a crime, you know.

  2. You’re not making any sense, nor do you express any remorse for the “single statement of the type that most men get away with”. I’m not buying that, most men don’t say or get away with statements in a similar vein in public. And even if they did, and if that’s your justification for saying what you did, then it is indeed vindictive.

  3. I hope that you’re trolling because nearly every sentence in this blog post is riddled with logical fallacies, obvious ones nonetheless. I will summarize my criticisms in 3 points; #1: That you are a woman does not make you special and give you a free pass to say whatever the fuck you want to and to expect everyone to agree with you. #2 What is the “cause of women” and what does it have to do with your blatant misandry? #3 if your brand of feminism is about equality, at all, do you not get the irony of mocking and stereotyping men’s endocrine systems (“testosterone and machismo”)? And this isn’t even scratching the surface in the context of what may have made you write this (Muslim gunmen). This is the kind of mentality that would rather blame “testosterone and machismo” than Islam as the motivation for gunning down a bunch of random people. Go on and stereotype the endocrine systems of women if you will, they make fine Muslims. Islam does mean submission after all.

    1. @Suddenly Truth: Your response just proves my point. Clearly you didn’t bother reading beyond the first three lines of the post. Or you were so upset by what I said that everything else just went out of the window. Women face statements of this nature every single day from several different quarters. It gets excused away as jokes and women who react to it get blamed, called names. In addition to all that, women are also subjugated for being ‘paranoid’, ‘diffident’ etc. I am not going to explain further since if this message doesn’t get across to you, I don’t think anything I say will.

      I am not sure why you brought up Islam in a conversation that did not have anything to do with religion. If this happens again, your comments will be blocked. This is non-negotiable.

      1. So, was this an attempt at humor? Or do 2 wrongs make a right? (“Women face statements of this nature every single day from several different quarters”)

        I mentioned Islam because you’ve posted this at about the time of the mass shootings in Orlando and Bangladesh. Wasn’t that the context for your blaming testosterone (assuming it wasn’t an attempt at humor)?

        1. @Suddenly Truth: You assume wrong. And dare I say, you assume too much. I do not talk about political issues and I most certainly made no comment on the Orlando or Bangladesh shootings, on this blog or on Twitter.

          My point (on the blogpost) was not about vindictiveness. It was to highlight the massive censure a woman comes under for a single statement of the type that most men get away with, several times a day, scott-free.

  4. It’s your right to speak about things and I understand you will not be cowed by stomping on freedom of expression. Both the men and women making vile attacks are pathetic and lack balls to speak, that I am sure, Social media is vicious and many are spineless. I don’t see anything wrong in the tweet. You stoked a healthy debate but some showed their aukaad.

    1. @vishalbheeroo: Sorry this comment of yours just slipped through my attention. I only saw it now when another louder, more upset man decided to come dump on this blog (see comment below).

  5. I am sorry that you had this experience, and I am not naive enough to believe that your experience is unique. I honestly do not know what to say beyond that. The tweet that started all this, in my opinion is benign and reasonably funny. It’s much funnier that the `better half’ jokes I am subjected to all the time. And yes, as a man, and for myself (since, fairly, I can not really comment on a woman’s experience in society and 100% of the time I am willing to take your word for it): testosterone and machismo is the biggest source of my problems also. Then again, I have been told I cant really comment because I am not a man. I admit, I am not. I identify as an omnipotent higher power, and my preferred pronoun is ‘M’lord’.

    1. @shaunakde: I saw that conversation where someone accused you of not being a man. I didn’t say anything because I’m so tired of battling trolls, indifference and being shamed for wanting to push back. The world sucks.

      1. @ideasmith Please do not worry about it. I would rather not be a man, if it means being insensitive to being someone’s problems. I am happy and contended to be labeled anything. I am surrounded by wonderful people who love me for who I am, and I hope that every misguided soul finds some love also. I am really sorry about your experience and, as a whole, the growing apathy in the world.

  6. I have often been arrogant towards feminists and have found faults with their language. I have found problems with their views against men in general. than i realized one day, they have started speaking now after millennials of keeping them oppressed. We need to hear their outrage and Angst because maybe we deserve them. maybe because we have killed their dreams long ago. Freedom tot heir choices it must be, we must be ready to hear abuses.We have killed and maimed women for long, least we can do is hear them. i was wrong once but now i am not so. i will hear the abuses and bear them.

    1. @loudengineer: “I will hear the abuses and bear them.” – Your words, not mine. Your responses to another woman on Twitter two days ago were abusive and harassment but you obviously didn’t see it that way. I think you’re making it a personal story casting yourself as a tragic hero. This doesn’t help women or feminism the cause but perhaps it makes you feel better about yourself. If you’re looking for gratitude or acknowledgement, please realize that a decent human being should not have to be awarded or proclaimed for according basic human rights to others.

  7. Commenters are always wrong.but they do not mince words.

    Please ask a trusted friend who knows you for more than 10 years and who does not believe in fake compliments for feedback .
    Q.has my timeline been filled with more angry tweets ,sad poetry now than 5 years ago?

    Yes I know your tweets get a lot of angry replies.but I see a lot of concerned friends getting concerned when they see you worked up.

    Angry ignited by one person’s tweets ,making us so angry ,that we become mean to our friends ,who take the risk of asking about us (99% will remain quiet as they see uncontrollable anger).

    I found the tweet accusing a usual well-wisher of mansplaining mean.we need to know some of our actions during uncontrollable anger will make friends move away.now everyone forgive take unintentional meanness like family does.remember the several you have let go for similar mean actions?

    Mansplaining the term has been used as an ad hominem to silence comments,faulty replies should instead be refuted or just temp muted

    But this can’t be done in episodes of uncontrollable anger imho.

    1. @nomansplaining: I’m letting this comment go through to prove exactly what I started off by saying. This, if anyone else is reading, is no friend of mine since he got all the facts wrong. Whatever their issues may be, my friends don’t feel the need to lurk in anonymity and spew venom. And finally, while I’d be the last to judge a person for their poor English, the people I mentioned in my post speak and write better than this. How pathetic are you, little troll?

      1. your reply proved the point .ideasmithy you are smarter than this!. dont let your anger cloud your reasoning and decision making. attacking the language and name calling,instead of the message is not helping you.
        anyway thanks for your feed back. may be i should put some alphabets in my rasam to improve my english writing skills

        1. @nomansplaining: You’re back, little troll? Well done on the Alphabet Sambar reference. How wonderful that you figured out how google works. Or did you just read my blog? Once again, no one I call a friend is such a coward as to lurk in anonymity.